• livus@kbin.social
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    3 months ago

    On one hand I’d really like to receive something like this but the part where someone photographs you and uploads it for clout is really offputting.

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      3 months ago

      I don’t think it’s for clout. I think it’s to show other people how nice life can be. Sometimes we need a reminder to appreciate the people we love.

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        3 months ago

        Fair enough. I think for me it just seems too intimate to be a “let’s show other people” focused moment, but everyone’s different.

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      3 months ago

      If you don’t like stuff like that, you maybe shouldn’t visit this community, lots of wholesome stuff is like that.

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        3 months ago

        I don’t think “if you don’t like it, then get out” is a very wholesome sentiment

        Something tells me you shouldn’t be the gatekeeper for this community

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          3 months ago

          I read it as “if you don’t like it, then a place where it’s the explicit purpose might not be for you,” which is pretty wholesome in its earnestness to me.

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            3 months ago

            Yeah, that describes it better. Thank you for writing that out, I do get it I should have elaborated but you can only write as much.

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          3 months ago

          Alright. Let me turn your point if view around. Assuming I want to be the gatekeeper for wholesomeness when I never even said so is not a very wholesome sentiment. Does that make you a gatekeeper for this community?

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        3 months ago

        Thanks @RootBeerGuy but I’m all good.

        I like this community a lot, and this is the first time I’ve ever been disconcerted after clicking.

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          I disagree, I think the Valentine’s day poem - as a retrospect of years spent together - should have ups and downs. It already has the sadness of the sick baby girl for example, whether she made it or not. Even if she died - she lived (at least for a brief moment in time) and her existence was significant for the couple. She should be mentioned as she is still part of their family and probably they still love her and think about her, even if she is not with them anymore. So it would make sense to me to include it either way. A bond that survived a loss like this should be celebrated.

          That being said, I also sincerely hope it’s her who posts this.

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      3 months ago

      My boyfriend wrote me a birthday poem once but it was about dick cheese. Then he gave me a jar of fake dick cheese. We’re coming up on our 8 years. You’ll meet someone with low enough expectations one day.

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          The gift itself was just a jar with a label he made that said “(my name)'s dick cheese”. Then he put some white food substance in there I don’t recall exactly what it was but didn’t look like real dick cheese thankfully.

          If you’re asking me what actual smegma is though… I won’t ruin it for you, but I’ll say a jar of parmesan would’ve been more accurate.