Yes those are red flags. It’s always possible that direct personal empathy will be enough to make this a non-issue over time but it’s far from ideal for a housemates situation and could go the exact opposite direction as well (mask off transphobia).
Also sorry that really sucks. You think you know a person…
I really don’t have much experience in these things, what are comments that I should look out for when intervieweing for places? Or should I just trust my gut, like here, and bail if people fail the vibes check?
It sounds like your gut is already doing well! If it’s somewhat safe where you are I’d just straight-up ask about their opinion on trans people but really it’s about what you’re comfortable with and what suits your personality. If asking less direct questions is more your style there’s nothing wrong with that.
Yes those are red flags. It’s always possible that direct personal empathy will be enough to make this a non-issue over time but it’s far from ideal for a housemates situation and could go the exact opposite direction as well (mask off transphobia).
Also sorry that really sucks. You think you know a person…
I really don’t have much experience in these things, what are comments that I should look out for when intervieweing for places? Or should I just trust my gut, like here, and bail if people fail the vibes check?
It sounds like your gut is already doing well! If it’s somewhat safe where you are I’d just straight-up ask about their opinion on trans people but really it’s about what you’re comfortable with and what suits your personality. If asking less direct questions is more your style there’s nothing wrong with that.