• ChonkyOwlbear@lemmy.world
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    14 hours ago

    I have to feel that “a woman needs to feel like a woman” wouldn’t get a similar reaction.

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      3 hours ago

      Traditionally, societal opionions of how a woman should be involved her making herself appealing to men before married and submissive to her husband afterwards.

      I would even say that “a man needs to feel like a man” and “a woman needs to feel like a woman” are two sides of the same original coin - it’s just that in modern days the latter is frowned upon much more (though, sadly, a lot of people still go around with an interiorized version of it) than the former.

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      12 hours ago

      I’m not so sure. If I went around standing at doors waiting for them to be opened for me, I think it might get laughed at.

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        3 hours ago

        I once got told off by a woman in The Netherlands (to were I had immigrated from my native Portugal) for holding the door open for her and had to explain that it wasn’t for her, it was because it made me feel good to be helpful and I did it for both men and women (if you’ve already gone to the trouble of openning the door, might as well keep it open for somebody who is just behind you).

        I just found it funny how a cultural habit from somewhere else that wasn’t even gender specific got interpreted as macho posturing.

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        8 hours ago

        Lots of women do this, mostly very young ones with fresh naive boyfriends but its definitely not unheard of for a woman to act that way. Not that that excuses the men who behave like this also.