It’s so sad

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    This is definitely a real thing for the boomer brainworm crowd. They scream that anyone to the left of Marco Rubio is a pedophile and then are shocked—shocked!—that their kids don’t want to expose their grandkids to that.

    My boomer parents are wisely playing both sides. For example, they brag that their grandkids are getting homeschooled. They get Facebook Social Credit from their friends who are so happy that these kids will be avoiding the Woke Agenda. (Ha, haha, ahahahahahahaha)

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        I’m just hoping the standardized tests ask about Salvador Allende

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          Why was Salvador Allende overthrown by popular revolt:

          A). Because he rigged the election

          B). Because his corruption was exposed

          C). Because his socialist economic policies caused long lines, destroyed countless businesses, and made wealthy or middle class Chileans to flee the country.

          Correct answer is C.

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    “my kids became adults, realized im a shit human, and now i can’t see my grandbabies! and that angers the narcissist in me because I only had children for selfish reasons.”

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      my kids became adults, realized im a shit human, and now i can’t see my grandbabies!

      I mean, I wish this was more the case. But as often as not, its simply because the Millennial generation has needed to move across the country to find good work. I know more than a few chud grandparents who get plenty of grandkid time purely on the basis of free childcare being worth its weight in gold. I know more than a few based woke grandparents who never see their grandkids simply because they live on the east coast and the grandkids live out west. Increasingly, you’ll see grandparents move halfway across the country to be closer to family. Or you’ll see kids moving back in and forming extended households, entirely because of the cost of real estate.

      Even the worst politics can be forgivable, even the best negligible, when material conditions are a concern.

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        i was just working off the meme and the grandparent who made that probably is a shit person if they have to “make up” with their kids. Obviously there are other reasons a grandparent can’t see their kid for valid or geographical reasons. My own parents are stupid as fuck conservative catholics but they aren’t complete twats about it so they see their grandkids and kids with no problems. Their debates they would have with me(the only commie) would anger me in the past, but now it just makes me laugh.

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          the grandparent who made that

          Idk, man. That could easily have been cooked up in Ben Shapiro’s basement.

          My own parents are stupid as fuck conservative catholics but they aren’t complete twats about it so they see their grandkids and kids with no problems.

          That’s generally the norm. Political views vary but families tend to stick together purely because they know and empathize with one another more than phantom third parties that they pretend their personal politics impacts.

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            Idk, man. That could easily have been cooked up in Ben Shapiro’s basement.

            whoever made it, some situation sparked the creation of it. It was probably created after 2016 since that’s when my own mom went off the fuckin deep end of Republicanism, like most of them.

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    My adoptive parents bought me so my adoptive mother would have control over my wedding/baby shower and what children I have and she wouldn’t risk being alone on holidays when her biological children (all sons) get married.

    They’ve been so much worse to me after I told them I’m not having kids because now they wasted money on buying and raising me sadness-abysmal

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      “Transactional” thinking, such as seeing people they’re supposed to nurture and raise and protect out of love and see it as some kind of “investment” with expected returns, is poison, the death of love and meaningful emotional connections.

      I wish there was a way to see it a long ways off to avoid those empty-inside fucks, forever.

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    Man I fucking feel for you guys in this thread. My parents are just well-meaning libs who immediately cave when I apply pressure. Like when JK Rowling was first getting onto her bullshit and I whipped out an “actually my friend is trans and you knew her pre-transition” it basically blew the transphobia out of them like a shotgun blast. I’d rent my parents out to you guys if I could so you could have a couple old academic libs to very lightly dunk on with the understanding that they are still trying to figure out a confusing world even in old age.

    Edit: I should add that I empathize because growing up in the South, most of my friends had the parents you describe and I was pretty familiar with how unstable it made them feel at home.

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    Yeah I’m literally in the process of trying to figure out how to stay in contact with my father but cut off all communications with my mother. She’s gone off the deep end. Any conversation with her centers around her racist hatred of Mexicans. She always wants to tell me highly exaggerated and likely fabricated stories of encounters with Mexicans she’s had. The woman carries a switchblade and always grasps for it in her purse if she sees someone with too dark of a complexion. I can’t be in public with her because if she hears a single word of Spanish around her, her eyes get wide and she’ll start muttering to herself about how “Mexicans should all go back.”

    We live in Texas, so often these people aren’t even from Mexico. It’s just Latinos, mostly people born in Texas in the first place.

    She’s super into Trump as well, obviously, but she’s one of the odd ones who is also pro-vaccine, so at least she has that. She worships the British royal family too…and is also somehow an advocate for Irish decolonization (she claims we have Irish ancestry even though as far as I can tell our family came from Poland)

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      I already disowned one outright fascist parent (as in, actively and out loud wishing murder-by-police on us-foreign-policy for even existing in the same city), but while trying to maintain contact with the other, that enabling parent tricked me into meeting with the fascist parent again after years of no contact.

      Oops, two disownings. edgeworth-shrug

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            I have felt myself coming close many times. I still have normal relations with my parents but they don’t know how thin the ice is.

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    My MIL recently pulled the “Think about what your doing to [my daughter].” After we recently set boundaries about her not talking to my wife until she apologizes to her for a previous incident.

    After a couple instances of non-compliance we shifted to no contact. MIL threw a fit because she “didn’t know what she did wrong”.

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      What’s up with your MIL? Is it standard sort of racism or bigotry?

      Because I’m scared to have kids and introduce them to my parents. My potential kids would learn slurs just from the everyday conversations my parents have.

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        My MIL has just been generally unsympathetic to my wife’s mental health. We tried to be considerate because my MIL was raised in a different time where that kind of stuff was just shut away.

        She recently said some very nasty stuff to my wife along the lines of “You won’t be a good mother because of your mental health”.

        We’ve tried to mend that with talks but she never really understood the damage she caused. Giving half apologies like “I’m sorry you took it that way” or “I’m sorry you feel that way”.

        We haven’t received a true apology and we’re starting to accept that we aren’t going to get one. She thinks we’re overreacting and tries to act like nothing is wrong and tries to interact with us as normal.

        So we finally set our boundaries for our peace of mind. And she’s starting to get consequences from those boundaries.

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          Wait, your MIL is talking to her own daughter that way? What the hell, it’s just genuine cruelty at this point. Your MIL won’t listen to reason, you’re probably right to cut her off. God, I’m really sorry you have to deal with this.

          I hope you and your wife are doing well otherwise.

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            There were signs of manipulation before everything blew up but it really came to a head once my wife recognized the signs.

            I’m just glad to be out of the situation. I’m sure it’s far from over but the hard cut has worked wonder’s on our mental state.

            Thanks for the kind words.

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    Teaching my grandkid that racism was invented by Judeo-Bolshevik agent provocateur Trotsky to shame and silence white people from being, well, racist. Meemaw and Pep Pep are just happy you’re back.

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    I’m very thankful that my family is full of leftists. Some of these posts tell me I’d be traumatized if I lived in some of these households. Instead I get to hear my dad go on hour long rants about the US Empire and how the president of El Salvador is a fascist dumbass. He does tend to say things during those rants that could be labelled as problematic but he’s also a farmboy from a rural area in a developing country.

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    My uncle keeps sending group texts of straight-up Qanon or transphobic hatred shit and I just don’t respond, nobody does

    My dad’s Facebook page paints a profile of a painfully stereotypical boomer conservative, he thinks Bernie Sanders is a communist and Joe Biden pressed the make gas expensive button

    My mom listens to Adam Carolla

    My surviving grandma is 91 and watches Fox News all day, weeping for how bad California looks now with all the homeless people living on bridges but not a thought for the people and where they’re supposed to fucking go since simply existing in public is basically illegal for them

  • My dad sends me these and also lots of pictures of flowers with Bible verses about forgiveness over them. I haven’t responded in almost a year, but I know when he’s having a bad night because he’ll just start sending me a bunch of messages. The reason I don’t talk to him has nothing to do with politics. Suffice it to say that about 3 years ago I started having very good reason to be scared of him being around me or my kids.

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    Lots of y’all are posting about the politics divide. My mom won’t let the church thing rest. When I moved out for college she was constantly asking about me finding a new “church home” there. Eventually I had to have the talk and she just couldn’t comprehend that I could be secular and have a moral compass without a bible. It helped me a little that my siblings have finally had the talk too, but every couple of months or years she checks in to see if we’ve changed our minds. At least we aren’t being disowned or anything, but holy shit please just let me have my own beliefs. I think she’s worried we’re all going to hell (especially worried about grandkids), which I guess I empathize with a tiny bit if I put myself in the shoes of a concerned religious parent, but like, just pray on it and trust the Lord or whatever. We’ve made up our minds.

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      My dad won’t shut the fuck up about this with my family too. Like yeah I empathize a little because of the brainrot he inherited that says if you don’t think exactly like this then you’ll be tormented forever, yeah that’s horrifying to think. But you’ve had a whole lifetime to interrogate that belief, study, discuss, learn, and even do that with us but instead it’s believe exactly this, no room for discussion

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          They feel like they are owed various things from their children because they raised them. There is no reason possible to justify cutting them off in their minds. Last Christmas I said I wasn’t going to the family get together because of COVID concerns (many anti-vax relatives) and my mom called me, alternating between crying and yelling at me because I was “being inconsiderate”.

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        it’s not new but it’s becoming more common given how stark there is of an ideological divide between older and younger people right now

        don’t wanna get into generational war or anything, because this is mostly a result of stuff like the housing collapse and wages staying stagnant since the 1970s. Older people largely represent survivors of a easier time to be alive (if you were white and not poor) and that’s coloring their impression of the world, even now