When you’re taking pictures of yourself, don’t use a mirror, it’ll double the dirt and distort you. Just put your phone on a little tripod (very cheap) at waist level roughly 6 feet away, and use the self-timer. Try not to go any lower, that’s how you look like a giant with a chin. Too high above you, and you can look like you have a massive had, and a small body.

Face the light source, not away from it, and diffuse lighting is generally better.

There’s loads of posing guides out their, generally just try to get your whole body standing up. Maybe hit THE POSE.

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  • gaystyleJoker [she/her]@hexbear.netMEnglish
    3·
    13 days ago

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  • BountifulEggnog [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    19·
    13 days ago

    How convenient that while I’m in my misanthropy arc there’s jackoffs on this site showing blatant disregard for trans youth getting healthcare, despite me explaining it to them.

    Genuinely fuck cis people. Humanity is my fucking problem. People, even fucking here, even after I explain it don’t give a shit. Fuck them.

  • shallot [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    18·
    14 days ago

    Hey, I just wanted to say thanks to everyone who commented on my recent losing-of-shit re: tiddy. I kinda just fucked off and disappeared for a handful of days, and I’m still kinda vibing my way through things, but I’m most likely gonna jump back on.

    I think I’ve just got some lingering appearance brain worms where, like, every trans girl is cool and valid and pretty except me, who is clearly a stinky jackass and a poser and basically an ogre or at least some kind of minor sewer demon.

  • RION [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    17·
    11 days ago

    Enby intern at work calling me “man” “guy” “boy” today like it’s a competition to unwittingly misgender me. And I couldn’t correct them because it wasn’t in private and I didn’t want other people hearing.

    Usually I don’t mind getting referred to as a man at work because only a few people know otherwise. But the fact that:

    • I’ve intentionally never referred to myself as a man with them
    • I’ve had no pronouns in my email signature and no name tag at all for months
    • we were having a conversation about a coworker who’s recently come out as nonbinary and how the intern could just tell even beforehand
    • earlier I’d made a point about how I’ve been a fan of the singular they when you didn’t know a person’s gender since elementary (true story, kid me was based)
    • and, of course, they’re nonbinary and should presumably know a thing or two about assumptions

    Made it just very not good for me. I know it’s not their fault and they almost certainly don’t mean anything by it but still. I thought about it on the train ride home and then laid in bed and then did things to myself that would probably get this comment removed under the new rules.

    I did call a friend which helped a little, she was quite supportive

    • inTheShadowOf [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
      9·
      11 days ago

      It sounds like there are more than enough signals to at least not assume at this point :/ Unfortunately, trans people can be be clumsy and shitty about gender stuff too sometimes

      Are they someone you would consider coming out to sooner to avoid this in the future?

  • mag_pie [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    17·
    10 days ago

    I finally got my birth certificate updated after a decade and a half of transitioning. The envelope was wet, like it’d been dropped in a puddle. After all the bureaucratic bullshit, familial abandonment, homelessness, discriminatory firing and unemployment. IDK man

  • lilypad [it/its, pup/pup's]@hexbear.netEnglish
    16·
    13 days ago
    cw not kink but kink adjacent i guess?

    ¹ Its my day tomorrow. I need to be kinder to myself. And treat myself well. And celebrate myself. So I got myself a chewtoy stimtoy, a pink bone that i can gnaw on. And a washable plushie with a squeaker in it. I jus wanna curl up and chew on a bone and squeaky my plushie, itll be cozy and perfect, and a good step toward learning to celebrate myself better

    footnote 1

    Idk japanese but i thought the image was cute. If anyone knows, what does this say?

    • BountifulEggnog [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
      11·
      13 days ago

      I don’t know Japanese, I took a screenshot and ocr’d the text 寂しい and google translate says it means lonely. Dunno how accurate that is but it seems like it would make sense.

      I should get something safer to oral stim with too, I chew/use plastic far too often.

      • lilypad [it/its, pup/pup's]@hexbear.netEnglish
        8·
        13 days ago

        Mmm gotcha ty for the translation! Im not lonely… I mean i am but its cause im weird and cant feel the people around me and dont reach out.

        Yeah, i want something to chew on, and these are people chewtoys so should be safe.

  • Wmill [they/them, fae/faer]@hexbear.netEnglish
    16·
    10 days ago

    Used the last of my money to buy a can of cat food for a stray I found, shoved the can in my shirt to warm it up since I want it to not be too gelatinous. My boobs are finally handy

  • catter [comrade/them, she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    16·
    11 days ago
    weed, mental health

    Been scared to try weed because for a while it could put me out of a job, but I just switched to a place that doesn’t care. So I tried it last night. Wow. It felt like being a kid again. For a brief moment, I enjoyed my hobbies, found things funny, and generally “felt” again. I could tell it was wearing off when my smile faded away. Chronic depression sucks.

    That gave me some hope that I can feel joy. I can be happy. Did some makeup (badly lol) today and that feeling of joy was there. I’ll have to wipe it off soon, but oh my goodness, I see me in the mirror cat-trans

      • mendiCAN [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
        10·
        11 days ago
        spoiler

        rom my experience it doesn’t help at all long term. much like booze you can get relief using it for a moment but, just like alcohol sometimes it doesn’t help at all or makes it worse instead.

        negatives outta the way it’s an easy high with easy withdrawal, so if you’re in need of a crutch for a bit you could do a lot worse.

        I’ve done lots of drugs and this is just my experience as an afficionado. ymmv

      • catter [comrade/them, she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
        10·
        11 days ago
        spoiler

        I have only used it once, so I can’t really speak to that. I know there are people who use it for depression and pain management, though. My siblings are all potheads 😬 I will probably keep using it every once in a while.

        It was nice to know that I am not unhappy and anxious in my essence. The brief time I was mildly high made me want to do more to make myself joyful through the day.

        Sorry for kind of dancing around your question. Hopefully someone with more experience can chime in too

        • catter [comrade/them, she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
          2·
          10 days ago
          spoiler

          I meant to add this aspect as well, but I’m inexperienced and didn’t know how much that would come off as scaremongering. You could say similar about my antidepressant as well, for example, but I would never steer people away from those. I think the mindset going in is important, that it may not be a solution in itself but can be a tool to make dealing with your problems a little bit easier / more bearable.

          • FumpyAer [any, comrade/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
            2·
            10 days ago

            For sure that should be mentioned, but some medications are worse than others for that. It is good to ask your doctor and also read medication reviews. There are sites for that.

  • catter [comrade/them, she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    15·
    12 days ago

    Getting gender euphoria from being dressed like a punk and walking out in the rain. I don’t know why, I’ve always felt happier when the weather is kind of bad. Maybe it’s the same reason I love blasting music, it gives me something else to focus on. Wondering if anyone else has a similar experience?