plattformen, auf denen man interaktion monetarisieren kann, werden hoffentlich untergehen. menschen werden auch in zukunft austausch suchen.

I still think my chest looks like a slightly overweight guy

i think thats my main concern, will my boobs be proportional to my chest? and wouldn’t that proportion mean rather large breasts? the history of my top disphoria is complicated. for a long time i thought my chest wasn’t flat enough. maybe i just thought it was too bulky? now i’m growing boobs.

i once tryed stuffing a bra to test a top. i like it better with breasts, and i’d love my breasts looking more natural, than what i did that day. i gotta stick to that. i also have to trust my body that it knows what to do there. breath in. and out. ;)

thanks for pointing me to bralettes. i really woudnt have known where to start. i only got a sports bra so far. i got that idea from trans mascs. ;)

i’m gonna look into voice training next. this is again a thing in which i may have needed other trans folks to tell me that it felt weird for them too.

ok, ok, it’s possible to do it! i will make appointments. :)

woah! to me your voice sounds hyper femme!

i remember hearing abt cultural differences in pitch early in my linguistic studies. so maybe that’s at play here too, but no doubts. ;)

jurassic park theme playing from afar clever girl!

;)

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do you have to wait long? i waited 5 month for the appointment and it took me like 8 month to get an appointment. that was a long time.

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ich würde raten, weil es aus aus phrasen sich entwickelt hat, in denen platt im akkusativ maskulinum steht.

• ich habe einen platten (reifen).
• ich muss noch meinen platten (reifen) flicken. …

wenn stimmt, dass ‘der platte reifen’ eher selten subjekt von sätzen war oder ist. könnte es sein, dass ‘der platten’ sein genus vom reifen hat und das n einfach behalten hat, weil das wort in dieser bedeutung überwiegend so auftaucht?

aber das ist, ich betone, geraten.

ich bin nerd-sniped. und es freut mich, dass ich nicht alleine bin. :) wenn ich empirische linguistik gelernt hätte, würd ich schon nen fragebogen basteln.

woah. du darfst auch einfach n eis.

i wanted to point you to a potato kerfuffle. unforch this article only exists in german wikipedia:

https://de.wikipedia.org/wiki/Overather_Kartoffelkrieg

:(

wenn du es noch adjektivisch, als ellipse verstehst – “wegen eines platten (reifens)” –, ja.

aber als nomen: der platten, des plattens.

das genitiv-s am platten fehlt nicht, die luft ist nur halt schon raussssss.

ich geh schon.

i’d like to add: the gross glibberishness eggs give to mayo is in fact gross.

“oh no! my gf had sex before!” dude mcdudeface screamed while being a normal human being.

to get to the topic: fuck those fascist scum btw.

yup. got a friend who visited recently after 7(?) years abroad. her phonetics and prosody are now anglicised.

also, my grandma once made fun of my german accent. (thats a more complicated story but yeah potato kartoffel.)

i’m unsure what you mean by feeling ambivalent about gender. i got some ideas:

1. ambivalent regarding the concept of gender: the existence of agenders has already been pointed out. even aside from agenders, people can dislike the societal system of gender, think it’s "made up"¹, annoying or the like, and still wish to place themselves in the binary. it took me long to accept myself as trans bc of this ambivalence, but i hate being seen as a man more than beeing seen as a woman. (i’m a little bit of an enby maybe.) also theres gender fluid people for whom the supposed constance/persistence of gender identity may not make that much sense.
2. ambivalent regarding their own gender identity: if someone feels like they are unsure what they are, not this but also not really that. it might be that they are still not allowing themselves to fully feel in this or that way. repression made it hard for me to even see that there is a big part of me, that wants femininity. it could also be that they are gender fluid, enby or agender, and thats why they don’t have an "unambiguous"² feeling of identity.

¹ well i see the fun in being polemic, but english is also a societal construct much like gender: the signs and rules are arbitrary, highly conventional, and it has no individual architect. yet it is there, we can use it to communicate, enjoy, confuse, etc. … ‘made up’ implies that it is easily dissmissed from the conversation and that’s not the case i guess. sure there are different languages of gender culturally, but still. tgey exist and affect us.

² that’s a bad word right from the terminology and expectations of cis people. enbys, agenders and gender fluid persons are not beeing ambiguous when telling what they are. the predominant system of gender just doesn’t know what to do.

hope, that helped in any capacity?

thank you, wayfinder! 😭

i eventually came to a point at which i care about making appointments with the dentist regularly. (not good care, but you know). it was a long way since i started the process of “ok let’s try this living for a while, what needs to change to make it viable?”

of course this didn’t look nearly as optimistic in the beginning. it was rather doomy. but there is a place for all of us, and there are people that can help finding it. my anxiety is still with me but i can manage it better, i feel. i’m glad you got on the way. :)