i actually like this pop-in portrait. but thx for the tricks! what software would you use for picking a frame? i wouldn’t do that often if i had to fire up a big video editing suite. …

i’m rooting for you! :3

yay! 🏳️‍⚧️

ty for the recommendation! :)

true. but black cloth is also a better sunprotection compared to white. that’s technically not a big problem for me, but i also like my vitamine d deficiency. ;)

i’m glad you found out about yourself. i know this feels crushing, and probably comes in a time in which you have a lot more to worry about. for more practical advice the country you live in might be very helpful. bc national and local situations vary widely. (you say it’s late at night, so we do not live in the same time-zone, unfortunately.)

I’m used to keeping up appearances for a long time even when I’m not doing well, so the sudden shift to the absolute mess I am internally right now is just too much.

that’s the case for any crisis. people cope until they can’t. up until that point, they are “fine” when asked. if you trust them, let them know how you feel.

We have so little life experience, and we’re practically still kids. They don’t have the resources or capacity to deal with me as I am right now, and I’m not willing to put that burden on them.

maybe they don’t have to “deal with you”. just listening for an evening and then call you differently might be a big relief for you already. you might even be surprised, what they are willing to do.

i wish you the best of luck. and in any case seek out fir a somewhat local support group. all of us need queer networks. not only if things go sideways, but for all the practical advice, and the feeling that there are a few real people with faces, who will be on your side.

30 min early. when else do i get the time to read? :)

ouuuu yeah

beautiful!

this comes to mind: The Guy She Was Interested in Wasn’t a Guy at All

thats all unforch. in one of the manga communities here new chapters are regularly announced/discussed. here with a link zu the manga

cease your investigations.

i will not further discuss my bookshelf or any other interior item of mine without an attorney.

they do not provide proof. why should you? he could as well argue my bookshelf didn’t exist, since none of you have seen it yourself. but is this a discussion worth having?

also: the underlying idea, that modern tech could do better whatever a human has done without it, is just naïve. we do not build much rounded shapes in windows and stuff anymore bc our machines work best and most efficient for straight cuts if we want to make use of their power we have to build a certain way.

i can’t talk about romantical relationships in any way. but i imagine it to be a friendship with even higher levels of trust and closeness?

I felt bad enough going to the first appointment “secretly”, despite my body being my own choice but as life partners it feels wrong.

this secrecy is what i can’t stand in my life. i hate the feeling of hiding, policing how i act, what i wear and not telling where i am going. i was confronted with the question, if i would keep the info of being trans from a partner, if i could pass consistently. as soon as i felt i was actively keeping a secrect and having to put effort in it, i wouldn’t want that, i can’t stand it. not even with friends. i’d imagine in a romantical relationship my tolerance for that feeling would be even lower.

outings are opportunities to learn more about the people in your life. :)

nope. i’ll send you mine. ;)

There’s no doubt that I’ll get through this, because for the first time in my life I’m looking into the future with the hope of actually living a happy life.

✊🏳️‍⚧️ you will succeed eventually! :)

i’m in germany. i know two therapists in northern germany you might wanna try. both fans of informed consent. maybe they can even help you out via remote therapy. (if you like i’d send you their contacts via pm, bc location …)

• first one is pretty much a person to give you his rubberstamp after one or two sessions. but in the region endocrinologist tend to not accept indications from him. so living somewhere else and having an endo somewhere else might be an option.
• second one is also super trans friendly, does group therapy over half a year, so that it counts for surgeries. an indication for hrt might? be possible earlier.

in both cases, if getting there physically is not an option, asking for remote sessions would at least be an option if you’d be ok with paying yourself? idk …

i had a pixie cut in different lengths for a long time, when i was younger. i loved it. you can start cultivating it from short hair. especially its a good starting point for growing out fully: your front hair are longer. you can put them behind your ears, later in a bun. plus it look super cute. :))) (– all the way. from super short to the point where your fronthair touch your claviculae.)

still there will be that intetmediate phase, where your front hair do whatever.

you are welcome. i felt absolutely the same. it is weird. youvwill do this. :)

i cant access the post, but that’s a nice dress! suits you well.

we are good. he probably just was with his new semi-regular grinder hook-up. ;)