I just realised that “like it’s your first time” has a positive connotation I guess, but like… motherfucker? Do most people have non-awful first-time experiences of sex? Between garbage sex ed and cisheteronormativity I just can’t imagine. I doubt it was even momentous for most people tbh? Idk.
I guess I’m in the minority here but I had a great first experience and still remember it. It wasn’t awkward because it was with a girlfriend in high school I already had for a bit and were building up to it. It was very sweet but passionate when it did happen. She was convinced for a while I was lying about it being my first time (I wasn’t) because I generally knew what I was doing, but only generally as I wasn’t lost. We were pretty young and stayed together for years after that and fucked like rabbits, like anytime and anywhere and all the time. I’m actually coincidentally currently where we first did the deed and did it many times again after that. We broke up near the beginning of college and eventually reconnected mid/late-20’s, still were in sync and had the same passion, but the relationship outside of that wasn’t great. We’re not together anymore and I haven’t spoken to her in years, but I know if we met up again that we’d still pick up where we left off. Anyway, I remember her and all of it very fondly. She was beautiful. I was very lucky to find someone that was such a perfect sexual match out the gate, had worse experiences later when I had more experience ironically.
I was honestly fondly remembering my first time probably like a few days ago.
MOVE ALONG CITIZENS, NOTHING TO SEE HERE
Like a mirrorworld version of my own… Well at least somebody had a good first experience.
I’m all nostalgic now.
movies have given people brain rot, your first time is universally awkward as fuck because you literally have no idea what you’re doing as far as muscle memory goes
even if it’s good you’re probably not going to look back on it more fondly than later encounters where you actually know what you’re doing and what you’re looking for in a partner
The game was rigged from the start…
It was my moms friend. The sex was bad, but it was extremely funny, looking back.
ayo um… congrats!/I’m sorry!
Damn my first was almost my friend’s mum. Now that would have been funny.
Idk I think I had an okay time
People take the sex thing too seriously imo, doesn’t matter if it’s awkward or if things don’t work, just try something else and if no one having fun give it up and go do something else
Maybe I’ve just never had good sex lmao
People put way too much emphasis on first times though, virginity is an especially cursed concept
virginity is an especially cursed concept
Finally someone says it!! But also yeah generally agreed tbh.
it was dogshit. we were pretending to pay attention to Mean Girls for 30 minutes until it happened and it literally took me like 15 minutes to put it in her either cause we were way too drunk or she was clenching too much out of anxiety or something
mine was about that bad probably
First time sex? I’m keeping myself for marriage.
Thank you, comrade!
I barely even remember, let alone have an opinion on it, i cant say it was great. I got my sex ed from the original season of skins.
Never seen that one, is that bad?
Skins is fucking excellent
Mine was very unsuccessful mechanically but still a massively positive experience. I think you bond better with someone over a clumsy fumble that you can laugh about. I’ve definitely had sex that was “better” physically but lacking heavily emotionally.
I think its normal to remember who, where, and when but thats about it. First sex is almost never good and most sex isnt memorable tbh.
most sex isnt memorable tbh
you don’t need to post your Ls
Ma’am, you’re going to have to come with us for questioning.
I was actually gonna say about this, nice lol
Teens on interwebs,
cherishing each time they score,
as it was their last.
Maybe ZWQbpkzl took too many W’s and they all became L’s retroactively because of repetition 🤔
More or less. Some standout moments leave impressions.
How memorable sex is is inversely related to how much sex you’ve had.
Quite frankly, I despised my first time so much that I don’t even like to recall it as “my first time.” It was just sex. That’s it. I give it no special title or honor. It was just sex.
Kinda feel like this too, because eeeeugh…
It was dogshit and every experience since was too. All the bad experiences is why I’ve not touched anyone for at least 6 years now :yea:
The volcel pledge
rip though…
part of me thinks I’ll never find someone that will be a good antidote to the volcel police
For now I’ll keep the pledge
The VOLCEL POLICE are on the scene! PLEASE KEEP YOUR VITAL ESSENCES TO YOURSELVES AT ALL TIMES.
نحن شرطة VolCel.بناءا على تعليمات الهيئة لترويج لألعاب الفيديو و النهي عن الجنس نرجوا الإبتعاد عن أي أفكار جنسية و الحفاظ على حيواناتكم المنويَّة حتى يوم الحساب. اتقوا الله، إنك لا تراه لكنه يراك.
I haven’t had a first time but I’ve been close a few times. It felt fun at first, but then I realized I wasn’t doing anything for my own sake. I felt like I was putting up an act for the other person and wasn’t enjoying myself. Then when it got time to really get intimate, I always backed away because I started feeling like shit.
I’ve only recently learned in the past year that’s not normal and that I’m probably just on the ace spectrum lmao
Is this my alt, and if so are you me & can you stop posting from my alt :>
I’m not cool enough to be you though
Hard disagree & also how dare you
Never had penetrative sex so I can’t speak to that, but I remember the first time I fooled around fondly. However, those fond memories aren’t about the acts themselves (which were predictably clumsy and not that pleasurable) but about the vulnerable intimacy afterwards. Just being naked in front of someone and feeling perfectly safe, without judgment, fully accepted regardless of any perceived physical imperfections. It’s those tender moments which I cherish, especially as there have been precious few moments since where I’ve felt truly accepted for who I am.
This is a good one, I like it and you’re right. Good post
I remember my first time like the time I first thought to myself “wow I love being cis”
it never fuckin happened
I will keep it as real as possible with u - if u did not have sex during your teen years you dodged a MASSIVE bullet.
lmao, i was such a walking pile of eggy emotional issues, restrictive parents, and crying that there was a solid 0% chance i’d ever get laid as a teenager. i still don’t feel like i “dodged a bullet” though
I mean I legit unironically think it’s better to miss out during your teens, feels less good if you also miss out in your 20s
I haven’t been single since I was 14 though and all I got was a fucking boatload of trauma that’s taken twelve years and counting to work through
feels less good if you also miss out in your 20s
:yea::yea::yea: ask me how it’s going
Brother in arms 🤝
Picking up knowledge to use later is what I’d recommend
Reading some books on trans sex and such. FTW is a good start too.
It’s far better when you know what your doing and get good with just touch and how to play with sensation.
Those are things you dont get taught. You can teach yourself tho.
Hey if I managed to find someone then you can too
Just be ready for dating to suck ass and take forever before you find a good match
I remember it fondly for sure.
it was later than many people I knew so it was a bit of a relief to finally do it. but it went great because I didn’t try and rush it.
I think waiting a little later probably isn’t a bad thing yeah…