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  • Seagoon_@aussie.zone
    17·
    18 days ago

    I know it’s a day late but I would just like to give out hugs to Eagle and his fam. It’s hard enough to cope with fam ourselves but it breaks our heart to see what it does to our kids.

    I found one of the hardest things coping with a dysfunctional family is how do I help young Miss Seagoon through this. How could I teach her what is and what isn’t a healthy relationship.

    I was super attentive about having an honest and very trusting relationship with her. I was always and still am always there for her. I was discreet, never saying mean things about people she loved, I let her see with her own eyes.

    And now she is a older, can see all the people for who they are and is grieving the loss of good healthy relationships. She has a fair dose of anger too at how they treat her and me. Of course the dysfunctional fam are not sad at all, they see nothing wrong.

    Hugs again to all our DTers.

    • Eagle@aussie.zone
      10·
      18 days ago

      Thankyou Seagoon. You really have a heart of gold. I am okay, the wounds have had a long time and lots of work to heal.

      My son is an amazing kid, a deep thinker with a sense of self I envy but still full of love and compassion for his fellow humans. I hoped for a life without hardship for him, but like you’ve done, we’ve worked on looking at who shows up, who makes you feel loved and having open communication about what’s happening in life.

  • Pilk@aussie.zone
    16·
    18 days ago

    My thoughts and prayers are with the queens doing day drag at Midsumma carnival today.

    • Pilk@aussie.zone
      13·
      18 days ago

      Additional thumbs up to:

      • Mpox vaccination tent
      • Divas queening out
      • Boys in short shorts
      • Just lesbians in general

      Thumbs down to:

      • The Liberal party tent
      • Drongos walking their dogs on the asphalt
      • Pilk@aussie.zone
        8·
        18 days ago

        And the layers of fabric, padding and thick wigs! 💀 They were each mothering though, looked absolutely stunning.

        • StudSpud The Starchy@aussie.zoneEnglish
          8·
          18 days ago

          Oh god, I need a Drag Queen Mother in my life 😂

          I can’t imagine, I’m dying just in my undies and tank top. They truly are dedicated, inspo goals right there 😍😍😍

  • TheWitchofThornbury@aussie.zoneEnglish
    15·
    17 days ago

    Exhausted. One of my neighbours (a pro landscape gardener) alerted me to one of her up-market clients who was getting rid of two magnificent concrete planters in order to have a new garden design. Spent this afternoon picking them up, cleaning them and placing them in the garden. They’re gorgeous - 60 cm across urns with Pan faces and garlands and fluting on the outside. Very italianate. Made in Brunswick/Coburg back in the 80s and the firm has gone out of business since. They even have a little concrete plinth for each one.

    Now the hard part - deciding what to put in them. They’re large enough for a smallish tree, so practically anything except daphne would suit. Am thinking might re-locate the rosemary to one of them, and maybe lavender in the other. Maybe a cumquat …

    I am hot, bothered, sweaty, every muscle is aching and I have no fingernails left to speak of, but also seriously stoked that these beauties are not going to end up in landfill. Estimated cost of purchasing a similar item (only made in China/Bali and not as decorated or as sturdy) is $200 plus - each.

    • melbaboutown@aussie.zone
      5·
      17 days ago

      Score. Depending on the size maybe one or two dwarf lemon trees? Would fit the theme.

      But definitely a good idea to house plants you already have

    • Seagoon_@aussie.zone
      2·
      17 days ago

      beautiful, I hope they bring you much joy

      I had some of these when I lived in yerp, they are based on ancient roadside shrines to Bacchus.

      I used to put huge tuber begonias in them , in a pot of course, just put the plastic pot in the urn and took it out when I wanted to change plants

  • PeelerSheila @aussie.zone
    15·
    17 days ago

    Reconnected with my oldest sister today in a 4+ hour phone call. Was so good to talk to her! Feeling very happy and sort of grounded right now.

    Edit: we haven’t spoken for about 25 years after I “went dark” due to mental health issues and personal problems.

    • just_kitten@aussie.zone
      4·
      17 days ago

      That’s huge! Wow, well done to you (both?) for being able to have that conversation. I feel you on having dropped out with some people during dark times and it takes so much bravery and vulnerability to reconnect.

      Sometimes we really underestimate the grounding power of just free wheeling conversation… I felt the same way after catching up with my friend today. I’m really glad you filled your cup

  • Duenan@aussie.zone
    14·
    18 days ago

    Bit down today, trying to keep myself motivated but it’s a little hard at times when you’ve been given news that things might not be ok with someone’s health.

    It’s all up to possibilities and anything could happen moving forward, I really hope that it turns out ok and things can return to normal but it’s outside of my control which is frustrating because you can’t do anything about it to change the outcome.

  • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone
    14·
    18 days ago

    Cheers all!

    E: Resident maggie also says cheers:

    She was trusting enough to eat it off my leg when I was breaking it up for her which is a first. She’s evolving.

  • Catfish@aussie.zone
    11·
    18 days ago

    Boyo has cooked his brain, cat ate a stink bug with predictable consequences, and I smell like a Swamp Thing. Bring on Wednesday!

  • StudSpud The Starchy@aussie.zoneEnglish
    111·
    18 days ago
    poem: a catharsis

    Dark silhouette in my bedroom doorway,
    In stark contrast with the lamp in the hallway.
    She’s creeping quietly closer to my bed,
    Seeping scents of old cigarettes,
    Mingled with BO and bleach.
    She occupies a distinct niche,
    In my heart and memories,
    A bittersweet reverie.

    Are we destined to be our parents
    Repeating history?
    Is our fate determined by our genes
    Or are we free?
    Are we intentions or actions?
    Are we only a simple chemical reaction,
    Starting at the beginning of time?
    Is this your life or is it mine?
    I am fine.

    A living room lit up by a lamp in the corner,
    Dying together we discuss her disorder;
    He says I shouldn’t hold it against her,
    She’s troubled standing on the border.
    But I didn’t know then what I know now,
    He wasn’t there when she pushed me down,
    And screamed I’m just like him,
    With a slap to make it stick.

    Are we destined to be our parents
    Repeating history?
    Is our fate determined by our genes
    Or are we free?
    Are we intentions or actions?
    Are we only a simple chemical reaction
    Starting at the beginning of time?
    Is this your life or is it mine?
    I am fine.

    Over a decade and I’m doing better,
    Still waiting for life to stop, start, stutter,
    The end is far away in the distant future,
    So I study and often wonder, ponder
    On a wish that never came true.
    But the sun bright and the sky is blue,
    My Love is kind and the cat is soft,
    My home is a hot mess but I am not.

    We aren’t destined to be our parents
    Repeating history.
    Fate just is a construct to make sense
    Of our humanity.
    We are actions and intentions,
    An grand ongoing chemical reaction
    Starting at the beginning of time.
    This life is our time to shine.
    I am fine.

  • Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zoneEnglish
    10·
    17 days ago

    The problem with waking up at almost 2pm is that it’s almost bed time :(

    Fuck it im staying up late. Monday is usually a slow day anyway.

  • just_kitten@aussie.zone
    9·
    18 days ago

    Hot hot hot hot hot. Catch-up with friend was so blissful and wide-ranging, almost like therapy, went on from 8:45 to 2:45… almost the entire time the cafe was open. Loved it. Now meant to maybe do chores today but frankly, other than the clothes and dishes, I don’t think I’ll do much. Can’t be effed with food prep and vacuuming today. Dinner can be sauteed amaranth with grilled salmon tail and… hmmm only have basmati rice. Maybe I could stream dumplings from the freezer. Yeah that’s plenty.

    But for now, cool down time with some cold grapes and reading Severence theories now that I’ve caught up to s2 e1…

  • Rusty Raven @aussie.zoneM
    9·
    18 days ago

    I survived day 1 back at work and am back for another day today. It is nice just being off the couch. The next challenge will be getting back on top of the housework and things that I’ve been letting slide for the last couple of weeks. I was a bit displeased with past me who decided to put off filling the car with petrol which meant I had to do that yesterday.

  • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone
    9·
    18 days ago

    When doing the chilli patch irrigation 5yrs ago built / buried a redundant line just in case one failed. Completely forgot about that. Now it has just been turned into ghetto potato patch watering line. Basically just drilling holes in PVC. Surprised the valve still works.

    And there are 3 little potats sprouting.