• AlligatorBlizzard@sh.itjust.works
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      I'm a dude he's a dude we're all dudes gif from Good Burger

      Still, maybe donā€™t. Not everyone agrees with the gender neutrality of ā€œdudeā€. How many dudes have you slept with?

      • riwo@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        i think there is alot to be said about the influence of patriarchy on masculine words becomming applied to everyone. men being seen as the norm and all thatā€¦

        • AlexWIWA@lemmy.ml
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          Youā€™re correct. But also itā€™s a nice word. Easy to say and very casual.

        • Dharma Curious (he/him)@slrpnk.net
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          Whoah! Thatā€™s a personal question I donā€™t feel like would reflect accurately my life if someone knew. Thereā€™s more to me than my body count. I contain depths and multitudes outside of the number of people I have slept with!

          280ish. But thereā€™s more to me than that!

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        Ahah, you changed it plural which genders it. Itā€™s dudes and dudettes in that case.

        Did you see that dude I slept with last night?

        Totally different now that itā€™s a singular.

        Yeah language sucks.

        • festnt@sh.itjust.works
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          nah i still see ā€œi slept with a dudeā€ as ā€œi slept with a manā€, sorry

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            maybe itā€™s the article that makes it seem masc? A dude, vs ā€œhey, dude!ā€

            • Refurbished Refurbisher@lemmy.sdf.org
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              I think itā€™s the difference of referencing another person using the word ā€œdudeā€ vs talking to a person and calling them ā€œdudeā€

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            Well contextually you would know who the person was talking aboutā€¦

            If you saw a woman and confused it with a man because of word, thatā€™s on you mate. Thereā€™s another gender neutral and singular term.

      • Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        In my area ā€œdudeā€ is really gender neutral in most cases.

        Regional dialects and all that.

        Funnily enough so is ā€œmanā€ in a lot of cases.

        For example: ā€œMan I donā€™t know whatā€™s going on anymore.ā€ In this case ā€œmanā€ is less a reference to anyone in any specific way and more like an exasperation (like fuck, shit, hell, etc) and is a really common usage.

        Edit: As an example of itā€™s gender-neutralness, ā€œFuck man, chill itā€™s just the wrong order.ā€ In this case ā€œmanā€ is often used in a gender neutral way when referring to a specific person. Also man in this case can be swapped with ā€œbroā€ and ā€œdudeā€.

        Regional dialects can get really weird in some cases, we use the same words but the meanings can be so different.

        Language is a beautiful tangled knot that depending on which side youā€™re looking at it from it can change so much.

        • Preflight_Tomato@lemm.ee
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          ā€œmanā€ used to mean person, it was gender neutral. In fact the root ā€œmenā€ just meant ā€œto thinkā€, so a man could be any sapient being.

          It was only changed several hundred years ago. ā€œmankindā€ and other similar universals were meant to represent every human and became exclusionary only under patriarchal interpretation. ā€œmankindā€ of course endures as universal, but we see lots of ā€œfirewomanā€, ā€œmailwomanā€, etc., where the language becomes fundamentally gendered.