down with cis

  • EstraDoll [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    5 months ago

    sometimes i tell my friends or people on the internet that i’m going to do things to get myself to do them because then i’d feel like a liar if i didn’t

    that being said, pride in (city) is coming up soon and I’m going to make the very, very bold decision to try and present femme in public for the first time there

    • Thallo [love/loves]@hexbear.net
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      5 months ago

      I find the different paths we take in transition so fun.

      You’ve started HRT, and that just feels years off for me. There are some people who have been on HRT for years but who have yet to buy any women’s clothing or present femme in public. Meanwhile, I’ve been doing that for years.

      For me, socially transitioning seems super easy, but I’m actually scared to make changes to my body. For others, it’s the opposite.

      We have so many unique ways to the same destination trans-heart (and actually our destinations aren’t quite the same either!)

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        You’ve started HRT, and that just feels years off for me. There are some people who have been on HRT for years but who have yet to buy any women’s clothing or present femme in public. Meanwhile, I’ve been doing that for years.

        I’ve found the thought of it to be super difficult but if I don’t put any effort into it that sounds like it might be me. I absolutely hate being a “man” though so hopefully doing it once will help me do it.

        It is really nice watching people do being trans differently though :)

        • Thallo [love/loves]@hexbear.net
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          If you’re in a good environment, it’s going to go like this:

          Oh my god, I’m so scared/excited --> nobody is really saying anything, is this normal!? --> hm, the excitement is dying down, maybe I just do this for the thrill --> I’m very calm, not even thinking about what I’m wearing, this feels normal and I love it --> presenting masc now feels harder

          At least that’s how it was for me