• Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone
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    Gibson in her first week living at my place ❤️

    It was an adjustment for both of us. I didn’t really know anything about cats, let alone kittens. The day I went and picked her up I bought one of everything at the pet section at kmart lol

    The sneak attacks were on a whole other level. She’d jump and stick to my legs with her sharp as fuck little claws 😂

    It was a really fun time. Very enjoyable :)

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    Mum’s in the ED tonight after her fall 6 days ago (well 2 falls in two weeks). I’m super worried. Delayed concussion ABI IV (she only has vision in one eye and now the other is gone) this is not good.

    Her life is about to change drastically and it’s going to be an awful adjustment for her and I just feel so sad.

    i’m not sure how to go about this.

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    An unsurprising day (mostly) offline. It’s been good, but I still make choc chip bikkies at 9:30pm, so probably says a lot about my state of mind. They didn’t even turn out that good. Went shopping but everything I bought (mostly sparkly makeup) I already have similar stuff to, but I’m taking it as buying things that bring me joy.

    Cried when I went into my bedroom earlier, just thinking the little dog would have lifted his head as I turned on the light. It’s gonna take time to break these habits, that muscle memory.

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    Well I fucking nailed that Butter Chicken. Both kids had seconds. That never happens lately. Put it in the oven for 15 minutes and managed to crisp up the chicken perfectly.

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    need some of that DT perspective.

    vent

    So for Christmas this year we are traveling to the inlaws, this involves a short flight to a state we cant drive to (I’ll give you 2 guesses). Not STOKED about traveling cause its MUCH easier for them to come to us, but whatever. They often to a greater family thing on Christmas day. I’ve been asking for months what the plan is. Finally found out that Christmas day plans are 2 hours drive from their place, strike 2. And that there isnt room for us to stay the night so we would have to drive back (for a total of 4 hours in the car) or spend over 1k on accommodation overnight, strike 3. Given we only fly in Christmas eve (and i depart day after boxing day) Im a bit… not enthused about the whole thing.

    Mrs B is acting like im the asshole for not wanting to travel or spend even more than we had originally planned to do, I claim the goalposts have been moved and its too much to expect of us with a toddler. So, thoughts?

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      I’m sorry but if the in-laws have no place for their child, child’s spouse and their grandchild…fuck’em.

      That’s piss poor parenting.

      I would give up my own bedroom and sleep on couches for such guests!!! Or blow up mattresses!!

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        Sorry I probably wasnt clear. Grandparents have tons of space for us. but the extended family doesnt have space, and their place is 2 hours away. All their kids/grandkids and stuff are coming and they get first dibs apparently. Sort of makes sense I guess, they’d be… tinyest’s second cousins I think?

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          No. It doesn’t make sense. Locals don’t get dibs!!

          No matter what, family is important, but looks after your own arse and wallet.

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        That’s a good point. We’ve offered to share our place with family flying in. We don’t really have room for them. Kids will be sleeping on camp mats and sharing bedrooms, adults will be sleeping on the sofa bed. It’ll be tight. But we’ll make it work if they need a roof.

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      What the absolute fuck? I’m also really sorry that you happened to catch covid this Christmas and didn’t wanna risk harming your in laws.

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      Sorry this is a hill I’d die on. You have a toddler, fam only told you plans now, and you have a metric fuckton of driving to do, AND ITS A THOUSAND DOLLARS FOR THE ACCOMADATION!

      yeah nah, your missus can go by herself, but I don’t think this is doable. 4 hours min of driving with a toddler, plus the weather and the flying. Pfft

      PFFT

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      Combined with the cost of everything and also a family to tow around with you without accomodation, I think it’s unreasonable for you to have to spend the extra money, time and stress with it all.

      It’s not helped by the Mrs opinion on this being the opposite of yours.

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      Sorry, but F the fact that there isn’t a place for you to stay when you’re already travelling interstate with a toddler.

      AND that it would cost 1k for accommodation and they’re only telling you in November. With the cost of things?

      TF is wrong with people.

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          Yeah, no, sorry to the Mrs, but honestly sometimes we don’t want to hang out under forced conditions, on the holidays nonetheless. Most of us have probably done it for a number of occasions. Life is just too short at this point to always be accommodating to others when they’re not even somewhat thinking of us.

          It might be worth having a good chat with the Mrs to clear the air and try and get on the same page. While I understand that she might not think it’s a big deal, it’s not fair to invalidate your feelings on it. You might agree to disagree, but for sure, if I was expected to be okay with it this time, I would not be doing it again.

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          If it’s no big deal for youse guys then surely it’s an easier deal for the inlaws to travel to you

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      That’s a lot to ask. Personally I’d visit the inlaws later when it’s cheaper but Mrs. B will still be shitty about it. I’d offer a compromise. Go later for longer without that distance and more convenient for your fam.

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        Yeah tried that, went down like a lead balloon. Shes like “Well, if they want to go you can just stay at their place”. I said “Nup. if they want to go I’m staying home. We can fly over when its cheaper”.

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      NTA

      When things change agreements must be renegotiated.

      always amazes me how inlaws expect other people to spend money to see them, i would tell them cars and airplanes travel in both directions

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        they are typically pretty good. I think the mrs volunteered us to go over this year… I said thats fine but next year we’re staying put.

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      NTA. I wouldn’t do any of this let alone with a small child. It’s too much to ask and it’s just begging for tantrums because he’s hungry or overtired or overstimulated or bored. Or difficulties involving vomiting or nappy changes.

      The adults can also get tired and stressed, maybe get into fights.

      It’s ultimately between you guys but I looked at that itinerary and it all looks like way too much.

      I’m extremely antisocial and introverted irl so would probably refuse and if need be I would fake illness

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        its more a money thing for me. I spending all this money to go spend christmas with them and they decide “actually, we might not even do christmas here” is a but sucky.

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          Maybe tell them it’s too expensive to do it then.

          Hopefully Mrs B agrees somewhat that 1k plus flights plus misc is too much.

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      Any chance you can find a camper van for rent late notice? Get your own car/accommodation and do more of what you want.

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      It just sounds too hard. Edit: and too expensive .Won’t hurt to miss one year, and they obviously weren’t thinking of you when these plans were being made. Christmas is hard enough and expensive enough without these hoops.

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    I tried proper bubble tea for the first time yesterday. So I took a sip, I paused, my eyes went big, I looked at my daughter and she said “Now chew, chew, chew, you can do it”. I’ve never had to chew a drink before. Those balls were huge.

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    My illustrated edition of the Hobbit did turn up and my god, I can’t believe I got so much book for $16. It’s got gold on the cloth bound hardcover, it’s nice and thick with glossy paper stock, and it’s full of drawings.

    Independent book stores could sell this for $36, saying it’s marked down from $70 and they’d move so many units.

    Book Photos

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    Booked in for blood donation on Monday. Lifeblood texted me and were basically like “yo, heard you got that A+ blood, which we need. Gimme and we’ll give you snacks” which works on me.

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      Pretty sure I’m O+, I’ve got that basic blood. But I got blacklisted when I was younger from donating, first time I went in I managed to get knocked out and go into full convulsions (unfortunately was there with my mum and it traumatised her for a bit afterwards 😅). Few weeks later I got a letter basically telling me thank you for coming but please don’t come again.

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        I’m O+ as well. Donated as a teenager. First one went well. Numbers 2, 3 and 4 not so well due to low blood pressure. I was told maybe when I’m older to try. I haven’t because I know me better now. At least we tried.

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        That’s a safety issue for sure - better to keep you safe than have something worse than convulsions happen when you give blood!!! You are your number one priority and I wouldn’t ask someone to give blood if they have issues with it (even being squeamish can lead to fainting)

        💜💜

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          In my defence, I felt fine 😂 It’s just I have a memory gap where one minute I was sitting up, and the next I was staring at the roof with Mum panicking nearby. So don’t know what happened but it just didn’t go well.

          I’ve had to do blood tests since then and they generally go okay as long as they can find a vein, but haven’t donated since that happened.

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      I’m A-. Gave blood a few times when I was younger and it was always hard because my veins don’t obligingly pop up. They just took a punt and stuck it in, and if that didn’t work they’d try somewhere nearby. The last time I had a few needle marks on my arm for quite a while, made me feel self conscious as I had to work in short sleeves, and I worked at the kind of place where teaspoons went missing on the regular, not a good look. Looking back I feel bad about being a wuss.

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      I’d have chosen to save the wine mate, you’re clearly a better person than me haha

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    My partner has been complaining she’s been freezing cold all day and she just figured out that we forgot to switch the mode back to heating rather than air con from yesterday. Gotta love and laugh at these Melbourne problems 😂

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        Now there’s a memory. My male parent could code switch from court room/general/bogan on demand. It wasn’t until I was much older I realised most people don’t work like that, it’s also a skill I’m much less good at.

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          I’ve lived a lot of different lives, that required very different communication styles. I’ve had a lot of practice, and now it’s my job basically lol.

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        I don’t enjoy it, but am actively dong it more rather than running away from shit instead. I’m not good at Medium.

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          I’m just overly sensitive 😂 worked in call centres for a thousand years. I always tell people, be nice to the person your speaking to, and then politely escalate if needed. Consultants will move mountains for you if you are kind and genuine with them :)

          Sometimes though, partial to full Karen is required. Especially if it’s the company’s fault lol

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            Totally get that. I’ve done front counter work before. Inability to go off script is the worst bit. Escalate without me using that word if it’s needed.