I don’t feel the need to post my life online… Continues to post personal story online
The difference is
it’s fakethe anonymity.
Doesn’t live online —>>> posts on 4chan
never felt like I needed to post my life for the whole world to see
As he posts a story from his life 🙄
Dude is so oblivious and arrogant. He barely knows her and is already judging, thankfully smart girl saw the signs and dodged a bullet. It’s rare for greentext to have a happy ending.
damn bro, no need to get up in arms about it. Everybody judges everybody all the time, just a reality of life. She’s judging him, he’s judging her, I’m judging you right now, you’re going to be judging me when you read this, and on it goes.
loner, but not autistic or ugly so I get invited out pretty often
Oof. This hurt to read
A loner autist amish btard is pretty ugly, definitely on the inside, but his mom assures him he’s not ugly on the outside. Mom is also the only girl who ever put her number in his flip phone, and she knew what she was doing.
Solution: make a social media with one crappy low-res picture of your face, one crappy low-res full body shot of you engaging in a hobby you can talk intelligently about and a couple stock photos of sunsets and other nature pics. Caption all of the nature pics with some variation of “I’m practicing gratitude today! I’m so grateful to the universe for waking up this morning!” You have now revealed nothing they didn’t know already, and have a “social media presence” that appears positive and emotionally well-adjusted to normies. You’re welcome.
emotionally well adjusted
No shot anyone who posts “I’m practicing gratitude today” is well adjusted lul
I said what normies will perceive not what is actually true. Although I will mention that gratitude is actually clinically proven to improve quality of life, but people also tend to frequently confuse it with toxic positivity. The example I have above is technically toxic positivity, but you’re doing little enough of it that the cost benefit analysis works out.
You might be right, but I’d still rather kill myself than play these weird games for a relationship. So far I’ve been doing ok without WhatsApp in the EU. If they can only talk to me via WA I’m just not talking to them. But then again, my circles are pretty “techy” so most people are OK with it.
“Practicing gratitude” is unhinged 100% of the time, without exception.
“Im practising gratitude” sounds like something jigsaw style killer would say.
Yep!!
I AM A NORMAL PERSON AND CAN BE TRUSTED WITH GUNS! I AM A NORMAL PERSON AND CAN BE TRUSTED WITH GUNS! I AM A NORMAL PERSON AND CAN BE TRUSTED WITH GUNS!
lol
This, for real. I’m autistic but I’ve learned to mask it by showing normies what they expect to see and it makes things so much easier. Remember, reception matters more than intention.
I’ve had to learn this too. A lot of people really could use a big heaping spoonful of “stop being right about shit, start getting shit done instead.”
I know this is likely fake, but I have gotten that reaction from people. Folks really find it strange when you don’t have social media. The times it really sucks is when they think you’re lying and just don’t want to add them.
Yep and somehow, they want you to “prove” you don’t have one.
There’s too many people out there cheating on each other and telling their side piece that they just don’t have one …then they turn out to be married and just don’t want to show you so you don’t see the pictures of them with their spouse. Men AND women as I understand it.
I think pulling out a flip phone counts as proof
But you are lying. You are on lemmy.
Imagine if the norm was to ask for your Lemmy/Reddit account.
If you don’t have lemmy nobody will fuck you.
Her: “What’s Lemmy?”
Me: “It’s like if 500 nerds emulated the Reddit experience of 2011.”
Her: (visibly drying)
“It’s like if 500 nerds emulated the Reddit experience of 2011.”
Now we just need Woody Harrelson in here talking about Rampart.
Her: (visibly drying)
Ben Shapiro intensifies.
Let’s say you’ve been a bad girl. Let’s say, hypothetically, you’ve been a naughty girl even. Ok, and if you were a naughty girl, you would be my dirty little slut right? Then hypothetically speaking, you would be my little cumslut. Now, let’s say you’re also daddy’s girl.
Now that we have established that you are both a bad girl and daddy’s girl, I believe you’d agree with me when I say that you deserve a spanking. Am I not correct? A bad girl deserves a spanking, and as I am daddy, you are my girl, so I am the one who must provide punishment.
lmao is this a copypasta or OC?
Haha copypasta.
Like that scene from Indiana Jones The Last Crusader
It’s ok you can fk me
Redditor? Forever virgin.
Lemming? Sex machine.
for me it usually one of the three: What’s a lemmy? What is this lemming site? What did you do to Lenny?
That’s true. A lemmy account is our age’s horga’hn.
Of course, I imagine he pulled the phone out and opened it in one smooth motion.
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No woman could resist this, shit I’m not even a woman and I couldn’t.
In fairness, I’ve got a foldable floppy type phone and the number of conversations it starts is unreal. If I wasn’t happily attached (and had more banter than the average housebrick) I’m sure it’d lead to some good chats and encounters.
As it stands though, it’s just a nice talking point.
e: plus it’s satisfying as fuck ending a call by closing the phone.
I am terminally online and even I don’t want to engage with someone I know IRL through social media. We don’t need to be on discord or Instagram or Reddit to talk 1 on 1. We can just fucking text. Like on the phone. No, I don’t want to download Kik or whatsapp or any other random, sketchy app. We can text through the phone.
Fuck texting like a Neanderthal. Use a modern, and secure app to communicate. WhatsApp as a bottom of the barrel thing (99% of society outside of the US is on it, so it’s the de facto standard) , signal or better if you can.
Nothing makes me smirk like the rest of the world bragging to Americans that they use Facebook to text. Yeah guys, you nailed it. Big win. We’re over here using standard protocols like rubes. I’m sure you get all kinds of security from that free app from Mr Zuckerberg. lol
I’m all for discrediting Facebook services for better alternatives, but Whatsapp employs End to End encryption by default, while SMS is readable from your ISP and anyone intercepting your conversation.
Facebook sends any messages it can to the police when they request so. Woman and her daughter were sent to prison for coordinating daughter’s abortion over Fbook Messenger, which is also supposed to be E2EE:
Facebook messenger has never claimed to be e2e encrypted
“Facebook Messenger offers end-to-end encryption, meaning chats between two users will be visible only on users’ phones and aren’t readable by Facebook or any government entity that makes a legal request to the company. But the option is available only to people using the Messenger app on mobile devices, and messages are encrypted only after users select the option to mark chats as “secret.””
From their linked article.
It’s insane to only have E2EE as an opt in feature.
I guess it’s because they added it later so they can claim to have it while still being able to datamine the average user. Not that insane given that it’s Facebook. I’d say what’s insane is that’s the same as what Telegram does and some people think that’s secure!
This is about whatsapp.
The comment I replied to wasn’t
Fbook Messenger, which is also supposed to be E2EE
When you send sms, you might as well be sending smoke signals. Not as if sms is secure in any modern sense of the word…
Facebook makes money selling data for advertising. They don’t host and maintain what’s app for the good of mankind. every single thing you send on the app is being harvested for data and you know it. It is decrypted at each end and hovered up for sale to the highest bidder.
You sound like an ad.
I don’t use Facebook and neither should you. Whatsapp is their only decent product, probably because it was bought when it was already decent.
We found a member of the Apple dick sucking cult right here!
Ahh yes, iphones, the only devices capable of SMS. /s I guarantee they’re not an iphone owner. They used the word “protocol” and “rubes”. Iphone owners don’t know that non-imessage texting is called SMS.
I really don’t care about security of a conversation that goes like:
“hey wanna hang out on Sunday?”
“Sure, sounds fun, let’s meet at xxx at yyy pm.”
People have a tendency to overvalue themselves in society and to the feds.
But she needs to check for red flags if she doesn’t want to become another rape/murder statistic.
You are really equating someone who despises social media to a potential murderer.
I’d guess the point is rather that women tend to research their potential assailants/murderers/lovers before dates, which is easier to do for people that share their shit on social media.
Right, because murderers share their kills on social media? You can sort out some creeps but those can’t hide it if you text with them for a few days either. I don’t think you’d spot most murderers or rapists by looking through their social media.
Well her vibe check was right about this guy, he uses 4chan, one of the worst possibly social medias lol
Yeah, but id bet money that the dude is an untreated/undiagnosed autist, and they can be really fucken creepy. I know cause I was diagnosed with aspergers at fucking 2, when you have to mask constantly and look for social cues you start to notice the undiagnosed ones.
If youre curious how I noticed its cause they usually have stronger fixations and are usually a bit off with their body language.
If youre curious how I noticed its cause they usually have stronger fixations and are usually a bit off with their body language.
You mean they actually live their life without pretending to be something they are not? Not everyone who doesn’t mask is undiagnosed, the opposite in fact. People get diagnosed, learn masking is bad, and stop doing it gradually.
I can’t believe we have people on lemmy trying to encourage masking.
No, someone who refuses to use normal modes of communication, is sus.
I wouldn’t trust someone who refuses to have a cellphone.
OOP does have a cellphone. It’s just not a spyware device like the 7/10 brunette wanted it to be.
I don’t understand why; I know a few women who don’t have Instagram (crazy, right) and this simple fact made them interesting to me.
I mean good for you? Two outliers found something in common…
Then what is sus about it?
Since when is SMS not a normal mode of communication?
Outside of the US? Last 15-20 years…
But it’s starting to fade even in the US, among teenagers.
The anon failed to meet the expected social norms for environment he was in. The only difference between this and a guy getting turned down for any other reason is the Anon (and it seems many here) are all butthurt over it.
you have xmpp? -no…
Matrix, Briar, SimpleX? -no
gotta have Email at least? … … no 🧐
Always lead with “I don’t have any social media.”
Shes gonna think you’re handing her a burner phone dude lmao
If someone pulls out a flip phone I’m just going to assume they’re a drug dealer
Anon actually is in complete denial about his autism.
Being on 4chan a wayyy bigger red flag than using a flip phone most of the time.
I’m not like the other
girlsboys.Lemmy is it for me. Oh and a discord server with my gaming buddies. The rest of it just feels pretty gross.
Discord is gross. But it’s hard to convince everyone to follow you on better alternatives.
What better alternatives? As shitty as Discord is for replacing forums, there is no better way to voice chat and stream.
Mumble is best for voice cgat. It can suppress noise so hard you can’t hear the vacuum in the background while talking. No idea about alternatives to streaming though.
Ive missed out on job opportunities because i dont keep any socials. There have been a couple companies ive applied to that i got a callback from after the interviews where they basically said my lack of online presence was a red flag for them. Like wtf does it matter if i use facebook or linkden or whatever? I get that it helps them get a feel for the candidate before hiring them, but still…
Funny thing is, some places love when people Dont have social media. I have had to go thrugh a lot of background checks for my jobs before and most of the time they are happy to hear that there is no social media for me to say dumb stuff on online.
You didn’t miss out, you dodged a bullet.
The obsession with social media is fucked up, in my opinion. All the AV- and IT-gear in my school were my responsibility for almost 20 years, I got nothing but praise from everyone. Keeping everything running smoothly was easy and I enjoyed it.
Then one day our principal added “social media presence” to the list of my duties. I asked what that meant. “Well, posting weekly on Instagram and Facebook so that the community can see what good work we do here!”
I resigned from the AV- and IT-duties at that moment. I have zero interest in touching those platforms and I consider posting pictures of students or their work online as a very bad idea.
The principal was visibly shocked by my reaction but could not deny the resignation of my duties, since everyone else had gotten to change their duty roles yearly. Now I take care of the woodshop class and materials, which is nice.
Two younger teachers took shared charge of the IT-duties. They have no idea how to handle any problems, nothing works anymore and people are pissed off, but now we have pictures on the Internet.
Good on you mate! I hated when my school took photos for the websites and socials.
