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Tomorrow is back down to 22°C with 3 days of rain, so make sure to get your washing done today!

  • tone212_@aussie.zone
    17·
    16 days ago

    Today is my birthday and I’m going through my usual sadness phase about turning a year older. Feelings of being a failure are creeping in as I wish I would have achieved more by now, going into later 30s. I need to work harder at changing up the things I don’t like, because some (most) days, I feel like I’ve just given up.

    I’m hoping I feel more positive in the morning. Have rooftop arvo drinks / dinner planned with a few friends which should be nice. Will do a few pressing tasks for work in the morning, but otherwise I’m taking the day off. Working won’t make my day any better, that’s for sure.

    Sorry for the late night rant but typing this all out helps.

    • TinyBreak@aussie.zone
      6·
      16 days ago

      Happy Birthday! I want to address this:

      Today is my birthday and I’m going through my usual sadness phase about turning a year older. Feelings of being a failure are creeping in as I wish I would have achieved more by now, going into later 30s. I need to work harder at changing up the things I don’t like, because some (most) days, I feel like I’ve just given up.

      SOMETIMES surviving is enough. Some times keeping your head above water is good enough. If you really feel this way (and its not some sort of negative perception or comparing how you think your life SHOULD be) then tomorrow pick a project, start small and tackle it. tomorrow aint promised, so if there is something you want to do get started.

    • StudSpud The Starchy@aussie.zoneEnglish
      5·
      16 days ago
      Title

      I get the birthday-sads too, I know a few people who do as well. I think it’s normal to assess our station in life when our birthdays roll around again, especially after 30. I, too, wish I had achieved more by now or worked harder, made different decisions, but we cannot go back in time. Mourning could-have-beens is okay, but don’t let it consume you, you have agency and autonomy now and can only change your future.

      Try and look forward to the celebrations you have on today, and enjoy yourself. Life is ultimately full of ups and downs, stops and starts, and it’s okay to feel that you may not be at the same place as your peers, but it isn’t something to beat yourself up about. We each go through life at different speeds, and that’s okay! You’re an awesome, kind, and funny person, I’m sure you bring happiness and joy to the people who know you.

      I am truly wishing you a happy birthday! 💜💜💜

    • SituationCake@aussie.zone
      3·
      16 days ago

      Happy Birthday! Hope despite your feels, you have a good day. Could have written this myself, I also get the birthday sads, for the exact same reasons. I don’t have a solution just sympathy, and letting you know you’re not the only one. Stay away from social media for a few days (or forever!) where your friends/family are posting about achievements and having fun. Comparison can hurt. Also remember, people rarely post the bad stuff, and frequently embellish the good stuff.

    • SpinMeAround@aussie.zone
      2·
      16 days ago

      Hope you woke up feeling different, the late night brain sure can get interesting. Have a lovely birthday and enjoy your rooftop drinks!

  • Force_majeure123@aussie.zone
    15·
    16 days ago

    First 1 on 1 meeting with new manager today, after making a couple of silly mistakes in my first week with her. Then five months probation review with first manager tomorrow 😰. Also tonight is first night of THREE in a row where I’m meeting up for dinner with various people after work. Unheard of. I’m not this social

  • Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zoneEnglish
    15·
    15 days ago

    My old manager is happy to advocate for the pay rise!!! It’s no guarantee but it’s a start :)

    Edit: She’s going to try for the amount that I asked for which is all I wanted really. Still going to interview for new roles just in case though.

  • CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone
    14·
    15 days ago

    I worked fucking hard to day. Washing, organised my linen press, cleaned bathroom cupboard. Threw out a heap of shit. Donated a heap of shit (good shit that I don’t need). I’m having a beer soon.

  • LowExperience2368@aussie.zone
    14·
    15 days ago

    Felt mega tired today and had blurry vision, and so I just lay on the couch listening to jazz music. Managed a bit of guitar and then the dog was pawing me to pat him.

    We also got news on Geoffrey the dog’s lump. It was cancerous, but the vet thinks they removed it all because they also removed a 2mm margin around the lump.

    Now I’ve got some friends coming to pick me up, and I shall go outside properly.

  • Thornburywitch@aussie.zoneEnglish
    12·
    15 days ago

    I have just spent the last 5 hours of my work day fixing a problem that was caused by my boss doing the glad-handing ‘everybody’s a mate’ method of billing for overdue accounts. I am so over this. Am I legally allowed to tie a pillowcase over my boss’s head after having inserted a pair of explorers into his mouth? Preferably having loaded the socks with mustard. Or horseradish.

    And I do the evil-dragon overdue accounts lady very well, but why should I have to? Such a waste of time.

  • Seagoon_@aussie.zone
    12·
    15 days ago

    garden pics, here are some jalapenos and some manzano chilies, i’ll be picking them soon to make chili bread 🤤 the manzano’s not looking great, this year I will collect some seeds and grow new plants

  • LowExperience2368@aussie.zone
    12·
    15 days ago

    Filling out patient registration form because I’m getting my wisdom teeth removed next week. It’s asking for my religion, and amongst the options are Jedi and Witchcraft.

    Friend wants me to put Witchcraft, but I’m thinking Jedi.

    Edit: I am a Jedi

        • just_kitten@aussie.zone
          5·
          15 days ago

          I would definitely not be putting the job apps on hold if I were you, given the track record of your current place… Fingers crossed you get what you want though because yeah house hunting is shit when in a new job. Too many places need proof of employment within the last 12 months and will require contact details from previous employers for a reference to complete the form…

          • Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zoneEnglish
            3·
            15 days ago

            That’s exactly right. Probation ends on Thursday and there’s no issue there at all.

            If they cough up the pay rise i can deal with the chaos. But we’ll see.

  • SituationCake@aussie.zone
    12·
    15 days ago

    In the midst of today’s gloom about the times we live in, (and gloomy it is), here is a small but significant Nice Thing appreciation. We live in a time where there is a machine in my kitchen that can keep stuff cold, and it even has a special section where it can keep flavoured creamy and icy confections frozen, and keep frozen water for my drinks. A delight on a hot day.

    • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone
      9·
      15 days ago

      I like not having to use coal to burn food.

      Edit: I just realised we do in fact sometimes inadvertently burn coal to burn food… hrmm

    • underwatermagpies@aussie.zone
      8·
      15 days ago

      Big fan. Also a fan of the machine that washes my clothes so I don’t have to boil them or scrub them in a river or any of the various delightful methods used previously. So convenient.

  • Seagoon_@aussie.zone
    12·
    16 days ago

    am I sook?

    Trump scares me and I am afraid for friends who live in America. 😢

    I am scared for all the good people

    • Thornburywitch@aussie.zoneEnglish
      10·
      16 days ago

      No. Not sook, but foresightful. My boy and his wife are getting out asap - certainly by June/July this year. They want to have another child, and wife is (rightfully) afraid for her general and reproductive health in Florida. The clinic she was going to has announced that it’s moving to Seattle. From Florida. So it can continue to provide 1st class health care for women. Which is no longer possible in Florida without breaking state laws.

      My boy is also disgusted with the way that politicians and others there have fled into ‘moral’/religious bunkers of hate, fear and repression.

      The USA is dividing into have/have not healthcare states. This is truly scary imo.

    • imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone
      6·
      16 days ago

      No, just empathetic. Its scary and its going to be hard, and its hard to be a systems thinker/student of history etc because the patterns are so clear. And you see them repeating here too. I have been thinking a lot about how to make room for the grief and fear so that I can recharge and get back to making little differences in my little corners. But I have no answers, just remote hugs